These are the questions I most frequently get asked and these are my answers…
Q: Who do you typically work with?
- single women looking to feel more turned-on, empowered, feminine, and sexy
- single men looking to feel more confident and clear
- single people looking for a relationship that they feel proud of
- women and men in relationships who want to improve and ignite their relationship
- women who want to feel more comfortable with intimacy and sex
- couples who want to take their relationship from pretty good to really great
- anyone wanting to grow to have more love in their life
- anyone wanting to feel more passionate and have more meaning in their life, going from numb to alive
- anyone who wants to fall in love with their purpose and career as well
Q: I’m curious but not sure about this whole life coaching thing. Is it really going to help me? Can I try it first? What should I do if I’m curious?
A: We have an initial chat on the phone for 15 minutes to make sure that it makes sense to work together. This means that I am reasonably certain I can assist you in getting what you want. If that’s the case, then we schedule a complimentary consultation. In that session we go into more detail about what you want out of coaching. I then tell you which goals I have certainty you will achieve through the process and which are out of my area of expertise. I then talk about my approach and how it can assist you in your goals. At that point, we review an agreement and choose to work together–or not. Either way, we make a choice at the end of the session.
Q: Do you do one-time sessions so I can try it out first? Or do you have a program?
A: I offer a 6 month program because the longer we work together, the more sustainable and deeper change. This will best serve you in the long-run. It takes people time and awareness to undo habits and beliefs they’ve held for a long time. So, my process works better when you give it more time and attention. I want you to get the breakthroughs that one month would give you plus the support to actually see your life transform.
Q: Are you a licensed therapist?
A: No. I am not a licensed mental health professional and do not provide psychotherapy, counseling, or any other mental health service that would require a license, nor do I hold myself out to provide such services. If I think that you need these services, I am happy to refer you to several outstanding therapists. I provide coaching and education that often result in substantial learning and transformation.
Q: How is this different than therapy?
A: I love therapy! But my work is not therapy. Therapy often focuses on the past, your childhood, diagnosing a problem and sometimes medicating. It is a problem approach. This is a solution approach. My process is about resolving current issues holding you back and then making a plan to move forward and create the positive changes in your life. It is educational and inspirational as well as practical, including many tools to help you achieve your goals and continue your growth after the coaching relationship is complete. Coaching is about action.
Q: What happens in the individual sessions?
A: We talk on the phone about what you want and how to achieve the results you’re looking for. Mostly, I ask you questions. Sometimes I’ll have you do an exercise, a writing assignment, whatever the session calls for. I don’t follow any scripts or formulas but I do have a large amount of content that we can work with based on your individual needs. I steer clear of lecturing/advice giving as well as being a passive listener. I like to be real with my clients, ask them tough questions, and give them a whole lot of love and support throughout their process. Also, I often have clients do pre-session worksheets so that I can come to each session prepared. You’ll get a much better sense of my style and approach in the consultation.
Q: Are you a matchmaker like Hitch and Patty?
A: No. I am not a matchmaker and do not set my clients up with dates. I guide you in making changes in your life so that YOU attract (not find) a good match for yourself. That way, the connection is organic and you get to take credit for changing your love life since you do the work.
Q: What if I don’t live near you?
A: Thanks to technology, you’re in luck. I see my clients over the phone. I have clients from all over the country who love the convenience of phone coaching. Scheduling is a breeze this way.
Q: What do you charge for your services?
A: That depends on the program and payment plan you sign up for. The range is $350-$700 per month.
Q: Will it work? Will I really feel happier/find my soul mate/enjoy sex again/discover my purpose?
A: The honest answer is I don’t know. I could never know and neither could you. Investing in this process is a risk. In my opinion, it’s a risk worth taking if you enjoy my style and have a deep desire to grow. After watching clients, I have concluded that if you want the process to work and you do the work, you will see many positive changes in your life. You most likely will have a whole hell of a lot of fun too.